[sharing] Why Men Love Bitches
Love is just like π: natural, irrational, and very important. - Lisa Hoffman
People say I am too independent and rational. However, in the book <Why Men Love Bitches> This "advantage" attracts better men. Here is an article by Holly Baruch.
Sherry Argov has accomplished something very rare to the human race, a guidebook specifically designed to help transform women from “doormats to dream girls.” Why Men Love Bitches has become a national bestseller, giving a fresh insight into the dos and don’ts of a relationship.
According to Argov, a woman can be one of two things: a so called “nice girl” or a “bitch.” The assumption would of course be that a woman would prefer to be the nice girl. In today’s society, a bitch is recognized as a derogatory term. Argov however embraces it, giving the term a positive twist. Argov describes a bitch as someone who is “kind yet strong…she knows what she wants but won’t compromise herself to get it.” The nice girl on the other hand is “the woman who overcompensates…[she] gives blindly because she wants…for her attentions to be reciprocated.”
Many girls have been in the nice girl’s shoes at least once in their life. They believe that how they behave is what their boyfriend wants, when in fact it may not. After hundreds of interviews, Argov found that over 90 percent of men agreed that they would fall for a bitch over a nice girl. (I think this is suitable for American, not for Taiwanese, don't you think so?)
Reade Carrathers and Jerome Manley, both students at Bloomsburg University, had the same mentality as the men interviewed by Argov. “I like a classy kind of girl who owns their own,” said Manley. Carrathers described his type of girl as “someone who thinks for herself.” Carrather’s later went on to state that he preferred a girl who would make him work for her affection, because “then she would have made other guys work for it [as well]. Basically she respects herself.”
If all evidence points to men falling for woman for who they are, why do we find it so necessary to become something else?
No woman should feel like they have to be more then they are to keep a man, and Argov gives you the necessary tools and advice to overcome such thinking.
People say I am too independent and rational. However, in the book <
Sherry Argov has accomplished something very rare to the human race, a guidebook specifically designed to help transform women from “doormats to dream girls.” Why Men Love Bitches has become a national bestseller, giving a fresh insight into the dos and don’ts of a relationship.
According to Argov, a woman can be one of two things: a so called “nice girl” or a “bitch.” The assumption would of course be that a woman would prefer to be the nice girl. In today’s society, a bitch is recognized as a derogatory term. Argov however embraces it, giving the term a positive twist. Argov describes a bitch as someone who is “kind yet strong…she knows what she wants but won’t compromise herself to get it.” The nice girl on the other hand is “the woman who overcompensates…[she] gives blindly because she wants…for her attentions to be reciprocated.”
Many girls have been in the nice girl’s shoes at least once in their life. They believe that how they behave is what their boyfriend wants, when in fact it may not. After hundreds of interviews, Argov found that over 90 percent of men agreed that they would fall for a bitch over a nice girl. (I think this is suitable for American, not for Taiwanese, don't you think so?)
Reade Carrathers and Jerome Manley, both students at Bloomsburg University, had the same mentality as the men interviewed by Argov. “I like a classy kind of girl who owns their own,” said Manley. Carrathers described his type of girl as “someone who thinks for herself.” Carrather’s later went on to state that he preferred a girl who would make him work for her affection, because “then she would have made other guys work for it [as well]. Basically she respects herself.”
If all evidence points to men falling for woman for who they are, why do we find it so necessary to become something else?
No woman should feel like they have to be more then they are to keep a man, and Argov gives you the necessary tools and advice to overcome such thinking.
However, I think changing ourselves may not so bad. (No~my spirit is a nice girl.) I am willing to sacrifice because I love him. Of course, both of us need to learn how to give ways. Yet, easier said than done. Even a simple phone call, I do not how to do it. Hence, learning how to love, including family and friends, is very important.
Each and every one of us can learn to give and take love. By systematically opening our hearts to one another in an environment of trust and safety we avail ourselves of the possibilities of our full emotional potential. That is the aim of emotional literacy training.(Claude Steiner, 1997)
anyway, Ich kann nicht aufhören, an dich zu denken.
Each and every one of us can learn to give and take love. By systematically opening our hearts to one another in an environment of trust and safety we avail ourselves of the possibilities of our full emotional potential. That is the aim of emotional literacy training.(Claude Steiner, 1997)
anyway, Ich kann nicht aufhören, an dich zu denken.
Comments